The middle of nowhere is about 25 miles from here

I read something today that said, essentially, that you can both lose yourself and find yourself in the middle of nowhere.  And somehow I feel that being close to the center of United States counts.  Kansas, specifically.  It may seem that I am constantly disparaging Kansas, but it's like wearing shoes that don't fit, and having to break them in.  Then they fit pretty well for a while.  Suddenly, though, the heel is worn unevenly and they get all scuffed, and it's time for a new pair of shoes.

Many people would say, ah, here's a woman talking about shoes again, but it's the first analogy that came to mind.  All I want is a new pair of shoes.

So, maybe I am taking some time and finding myself out here.  I have certainly come to some good realizations over the past 5 years. 

First, anger serves almost no purpose.  Usually, the people you're angry at don't care or don't know, so all it is does is make you more angry. 

Second, if you thought high-school drama was ridiculous, wait until you are around entitled grown-ups.  (As an example, many military wives I know are losing their minds that the commissary prices may go up significantly.  I think that's fine, since I would rather that the government supply good insurance and retirement for soldiers.  If $1 more for something will insure enough money in the military coffers to take care of current soldiers and veterans, I'd rather have that than cheaper breakfast cereal.)

Third, while I am not responsible for the happiness of other people, I still long to help facilitate it.  It's so hard for me not to try valiantly to help someone achieve or acquire something they want.  Sometimes, it's just when someone is feeling down.  I want to help them not feel that way, and not to feel lonely in their down-ness.  I have to make sure, though, not to get to the point where I am working harder for it than they are.  That's the trick for me, I think.  I don't have a good balance, and think that, if I don't immediately act to help someone in need, they may think that I don't care about them.  Theses are often people who I have known for years, and of course they know that I love them, value them, and wish they had happiness and success (by whatever standard that is measured for them).  It's not my job to help them, but as a friend or family member, is it in the best interest of the community ("it takes a village") to help them out?  I am still sorting this one out...

Fourth, and finally for now, I have learned to start believing that I am enough.  Just as I am.  And even though there's always room for improvement (both personally and professionally), I am enough.  Even when my house is a mess, I have eaten too much, or I am not nice when talking about someone, I am enough.  All that does is provide me with clear goals and objectives to clean the damn house, put down the fork, and keep other people's names out of my mouth.

I am force to be reckoned with, just as I am.  I am enough, just as I am.  I am a weird, driven, cranky, laugh-my-ass-off woman just as I am.  I want more happiness for you than you may want for yourself.  I certainly want more happiness for myself than you want for me, is how it feels sometimes.  But there is no one who is better at stopping me, talking me out of things, and obstructing me as I am.  If I were someone else, I would tell me to get out of my way.

Maybe that's what all this is for, psyching myself up and putting things out there so that it's written down somewhere and not just rolling around in my head.  Constantly, like a tumbleweed.  In Kansas.