Forgive me...It's the love talking...

So a friend of mine has been full-on, no-doubt, smacked in the face by real love. And there's really no other way to describe it, I think...There are older people, people you may know, and you can ask them, 'How did you know that he (or she) was the one?', and the funny thing is that no one who has ever met their own The One needs to ask this question...When it happens, it's the most obvious, blatant thing that has ever happened in your life...Who the person is may come as a total surprise...I used to get pissed when I was looking for The One, and people would say that as soon as I stopped looking, I would find him. And then I really got pissed off because, 3 days after I decided very consciously to stop looking for love, I met The One. 3 damn days. And it took me about 6 weeks to figure out that that's who he was, the real one, The One one. And I will say now that I think looking for love is about as effective as looking for a way into Narnia; you never get there the same way twice, and it's magical, and elusive, so for god's sake stop looking.

So my friend and I have been talking about this a lot lately...I am sort of loving vicariously, simply getting energy off of seeing someone have this sort of thing happening to them...And i told her that it can feel very weird, because all of a sudden, even in 13 days, your life can change forever.

And it can be very hard to explain this to people who have never had it...They tend to look at you like you're drunk, or insane. And you keep saying things like, "Isn't it weird that we both like whatever is is that you both like?" and they can't get it....I told my friend it was almost like trying to explain Mozart to a deaf person...That, in no way, can you fully explain it...They have to be 5th row center at the New York Philharmonic of Love to fully comprehend the power and the nuance and complexity of it...

But when it comes down to it, it's all very simple. When it's real, and you will know it's real, it will hit you like a ton of bricks...And you will put away all the doubt about whether it will work, and start thinking about how it will work...I told her that real love is like making water out of hydrogen and oxygen...That once they are put together, that's it, it's water....And a lot of crazy shit can happen to water: rapids, freezing, pollution, whatever. But after all is said and done, it's STILL water. So once you and The One promise to be together forever, then that's just how it will be.

I told her that there were times in my relationship with my husband that I had wept, simply because I was overwhelmed with how much I loved him...Just could not physically contain it, and it came pouring out of my eyes...And I have been with him for 11 years, and the last time I cried from loving him was 2 days ago...Just couldn't keep the love in, and there I was at work, crying and trying to type...

And she and I talked about regretting old relationships that hadn't worked, and how once you found The One, you often find yourself valuing all those old relationships you messed up, because they taught you how NOT to do it...

And it's not all sunshine and roses...But it's not work all the time either. You just decide to stay together and then that's just it. Like your own personal commandment.

So, she is overwhelmed by love tonight, and I told her that, if she was weeping from joy later, that I would keep my phone on. She's got some interesting choices to make in the near future, but mostly it's just geography...And no great love story ever got off the ground when the lovers lived far apart and no one wanted to move. I mean, what if Juliet had just been okay with Romeo being banished? What kind of BS is that?

So, she has found it, found him, The One. And it's really making her understand how much it means, and how much she wants it.

I would stop time and tide for my husband if I could. And if I couldn't, I would sure as shit find a way...